The YouTuber below has provided a debunk for the “Chris Watts is a narcissist!” No, actually he isn’t video. What do you think, does she succeed?
I’ve also provided a third video which has an interesting if dubiously relevant explanation of the “covert narcissist”. The scary part is I think I have some of those traits, but doesn’t saying that outright mean I’m not “covert” by definition?
So what am I?
True Crime Rocket Science II 
I don’t know how much value there is in giving out labels toward people. Certainly in an institutional setting where treatment is contingent on a proper diagnosis there is value. But it seems that in society we throw labels around like personality disorder, narcissist, overt or covert narcissism, obsessive compulsive disorder and even post traumatic disorder like dispensing candy, when we are not qualified to determine someone else’s state of mind. But there is some value and truth in what – Zoe? – says that Watts had a mask up for years, how many years we don’t know as we can’t know when he adopted it. And to me it was telling when Coder left him in the interrogation room with a picture of his girls that he stared at as the clock ticked above his head, invited to think about his girls and what he had done to them. Rather emotionless, as if couldn’t really conjure up any real feelings for them one way or the other.
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You can say outright that you’re a covert narcissist and still be one. That’s called self-awareness. It’s basically like saying you’re a self-centered introvert or self-centered extrovert. If you know you’re passive-aggressive and say so, that doesn’t make you stop being naturally passive-aggressive. The thing with all these labels is that anyone can see some of themselves in all of the descriptions. I saw some of myself when he mentioned classic narcissism, covert narcissism and introverted/covert-narcissism. So, what am I? I agree with Sylvester. I don’t see much value in labels. I get more value when I align people’s words with their actions. Watts likes to say he was a family man. His actions say otherwise. The only clear label I have for him is “Liar/Murderer”.
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Thanks for your comment.
Covert is a word implying secret, or subterfuge.
I do like the question: what am I, and I think listening for the answer, rather than placing a word across the vault of possibility is the better way to discovering our true selves.
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There is always a pitfall in considering the “I” in who am I, as who is the “I” doing the questioning? Where does the I exist – our brain, our heart our soul, our left toe? There is no I, there are only stories, made up from experiences in our past of events that happened, our interpretation of events, our response to them, and decisions we made from those events. When we have collected enough stories about really, who we were, as most of us do not experience life in the now, we experience it from what happened before, we put together an “I” – I am kind, I am tough, I am not kind, I am not nice, I am giving, I am loving I am carefree I am an artist I am this or that. So as not to come from the past, continually, and instead be in the now which determines tomorrow or the future, taking a stand for who you are, now, will have more power and relevance than thinking who you are based on a bunch of flimsy stories that were culled together for survival purposes, then. Instead of applying adjectives to the question “who am I” allow that there is no I – and that who you are is who you say you are; and stand for that. And a word to the inquiring, you have to see and acknowledge the nasty stuff before you can see that we are all just humans becoming. And drink lots of coffee.
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